I REALY NEED ADVICES HERE, plzzzzz help me out!!
hello everybody,
this post gonna be kinda diffrent abut other posts and im writing it without checking the spelling, so anyways i just need here ADVICES from u ppl, cuz im realy in the middle of big trouble..and its:
everybody knows abut me and Amy and howmuch i love her and in the same time howmuch she hurted me for no reasons in the past but now thanx god everything is cool, i know it aint cool like we were in the past 3 years, but its way better then the 4 months that we broke up and howmuch it destroied and ruined me physically and emotionaly!!
Anyways but i still love Amy a real love and i think i know she do the same thing to me, but the problem is when i broke up with Amy i met another girls and girl calls Becky..
Becky filled the emptieness i had in my heart cuz of Amy, and she is always trying to heal the wounds i had cuz of Amy..i used to tell Becky that i love her so much and blab blab bla... but the fact is i like Becky but i dont love her as much i love Amy and Becky knows that!!.. before Amy and me got back together i used to tell her that i love her more then Amy and i wish to marry her and she is my rescue angel, blab blab bla...
then after i felt that i need to put end and give Amy last chance for us to be together again and she took it.. i told Becky abut wat happened and me and Amy we r back together and i made deals with her dad for the marriage after the graduation from college..
Amy's dad wanted from me things that i shud do to have his daughter and i agreed and some of them was like, i shud promise him that i'll make her happy as long am breathing, finsh my college and get the degree, find a good well-paid job and small house that i own, besides that i already own car.. i agreed for wat Amy's dad asked from me cuz Amy to me is high price and she worth it..
now lets talk abut Becky, Becky loves me more then i do, even she calls me for hours and hours from her own cellphone credit, she do watever i ask her to do, besides she said to me if i wanna marry her, she doesnt want anything just my degree and my real care and love to her...cuz she said her mom is a memeber in the iraqi parliament and she can get me a well paid job..but i rejected Becky cuz i love Amy not Becky and howmuch i tried hard to hate Amy and loving Becky i cudnt do it!!
Anyways at June-12-08 Becky sent me SMS and she told me that she loves me so much and she wish we cud be one day one person and live together for the rest of our life!!, then i sent her SMS to make her SMS looks fun and not being seriuos, i told her, cool why u dont come and ask for my hand from my parents?lol.. i just tried to make it looks funny and she is not serious and im not taking it seirously!!
but the fact is she mean it and thats the big problem!!
Now ppl plz tell me, wat i got to do with Becky?
I chosed Amy, and i know Amy is so high price to have and she needs alot of hard work from me to do the promises that i gave to her dad..not like Becky..cuz as i said Becky's family wants only my degree and real luv to thier daughter..
I chosed hard work, jade, pain, sacrifice and my heart by chosing Amy..
I didnt chose my mind, thats why i didnt chose Becky the daughter of the parliament's memeber!!
Fellas now i want ur help in a nice way to get Becky away, i dont want hurt Becky and i dont want cheat on Amy but still having relationship with Becky, besides, Amy told me that i got to cut off all my not normal relationships with other girls icluding Becky and the other 2 girls I know, cuz thats mean i wont be Semper Fidelis(Always Faithful) to Amy..
I got email from a friend of mine, (i hope she is reading my post now) advicing me and she encourged me to cut off all my relationships with other girls and just getting long with Amy..cuz that calls cheating on Amy..and if i still with Becky or any other girl besides Amy, me and Amy wont last for ever..and i dont want this happen, i want Amy forever, ONLY AMY, thats why im breaking up with others..
Please advice me, breifly, I need to break up with Becky in nice way cuz i cant keep hanging Becky in hopes and wishes cant be true, like me and her we cud be something one day!! it aint gonna happen and i dont want hurt Becky..
so wats the DEAL with that?
this post gonna be kinda diffrent abut other posts and im writing it without checking the spelling, so anyways i just need here ADVICES from u ppl, cuz im realy in the middle of big trouble..and its:
everybody knows abut me and Amy and howmuch i love her and in the same time howmuch she hurted me for no reasons in the past but now thanx god everything is cool, i know it aint cool like we were in the past 3 years, but its way better then the 4 months that we broke up and howmuch it destroied and ruined me physically and emotionaly!!
Anyways but i still love Amy a real love and i think i know she do the same thing to me, but the problem is when i broke up with Amy i met another girls and girl calls Becky..
Becky filled the emptieness i had in my heart cuz of Amy, and she is always trying to heal the wounds i had cuz of Amy..i used to tell Becky that i love her so much and blab blab bla... but the fact is i like Becky but i dont love her as much i love Amy and Becky knows that!!.. before Amy and me got back together i used to tell her that i love her more then Amy and i wish to marry her and she is my rescue angel, blab blab bla...
then after i felt that i need to put end and give Amy last chance for us to be together again and she took it.. i told Becky abut wat happened and me and Amy we r back together and i made deals with her dad for the marriage after the graduation from college..
Amy's dad wanted from me things that i shud do to have his daughter and i agreed and some of them was like, i shud promise him that i'll make her happy as long am breathing, finsh my college and get the degree, find a good well-paid job and small house that i own, besides that i already own car.. i agreed for wat Amy's dad asked from me cuz Amy to me is high price and she worth it..
now lets talk abut Becky, Becky loves me more then i do, even she calls me for hours and hours from her own cellphone credit, she do watever i ask her to do, besides she said to me if i wanna marry her, she doesnt want anything just my degree and my real care and love to her...cuz she said her mom is a memeber in the iraqi parliament and she can get me a well paid job..but i rejected Becky cuz i love Amy not Becky and howmuch i tried hard to hate Amy and loving Becky i cudnt do it!!
Anyways at June-12-08 Becky sent me SMS and she told me that she loves me so much and she wish we cud be one day one person and live together for the rest of our life!!, then i sent her SMS to make her SMS looks fun and not being seriuos, i told her, cool why u dont come and ask for my hand from my parents?lol.. i just tried to make it looks funny and she is not serious and im not taking it seirously!!
but the fact is she mean it and thats the big problem!!
Now ppl plz tell me, wat i got to do with Becky?
I chosed Amy, and i know Amy is so high price to have and she needs alot of hard work from me to do the promises that i gave to her dad..not like Becky..cuz as i said Becky's family wants only my degree and real luv to thier daughter..
I chosed hard work, jade, pain, sacrifice and my heart by chosing Amy..
I didnt chose my mind, thats why i didnt chose Becky the daughter of the parliament's memeber!!
Fellas now i want ur help in a nice way to get Becky away, i dont want hurt Becky and i dont want cheat on Amy but still having relationship with Becky, besides, Amy told me that i got to cut off all my not normal relationships with other girls icluding Becky and the other 2 girls I know, cuz thats mean i wont be Semper Fidelis(Always Faithful) to Amy..
I got email from a friend of mine, (i hope she is reading my post now) advicing me and she encourged me to cut off all my relationships with other girls and just getting long with Amy..cuz that calls cheating on Amy..and if i still with Becky or any other girl besides Amy, me and Amy wont last for ever..and i dont want this happen, i want Amy forever, ONLY AMY, thats why im breaking up with others..
Please advice me, breifly, I need to break up with Becky in nice way cuz i cant keep hanging Becky in hopes and wishes cant be true, like me and her we cud be something one day!! it aint gonna happen and i dont want hurt Becky..
so wats the DEAL with that?
posted by Sam at
2:56 PM
13 Comments:
Sam,
Well, well, well: its an aweful deep subject for such a shallow mind hahah...
No seriously, I agree with Amy and with that girl who emailed you and asked you to cut off and end up every thing with Beckey...
Listen, Becky is a girl who lives in a fancy world has every thing BUT love and she might experienced falling in love with you, since you don't have the same feelings towarsd her as you have to Amy then you have to get into some pain and leave Beckey, as they say no pain no gain...bare some pain in order to gain Amy for the rest of your life, other than that you are in a a middle of a complicated situation...
Make your decision and talk to Becky in a serious way, neglect her sms, once, twice she will feel it and leave you, why don't you change your cellphone number and hereby you cut all the ties with your ex-G friends?
What do you say? I am here to give you some hints ;) hope they work out for ya!
take care Sam
Heyy! Look, I'm SO sorry that my class didn't get their shit together, my teacher had this whole assignment about questions we were going to put together for you but then it was a week before finals and everyone freaked out so he ended up not doing it... Anyway, do you have myspace? (if so, you should add me: http://www.myspace.com/flirteeygurl ) I still think you're awesome [:
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Kaylin
I only came across your blog last week. I don't know you personally and neither I do know Becky or Amy but I was in a similar situation and I did choose my Amy but lived to regret it. I was young and I made a wrong decision that in a way I'm still paying for that decision. Anyway, I guess the best way to break up with your Becky is to be very honest with her. Go, meet her and tell her the truth. I think for someone who loves you that much, a respectful end is the least that you can return her love for but are you sure your Amy loves you? from your previous blog(s), I did not get the feeling that she does love you despite your subconscious attempts to paint a rather biased and brighter image of her. Sorry for the interference but you asked for advice! Good luck.
Hi Sam.
As usual, i hope everything else is going well :).
let me stary by saying i'm sorry, i missed your last post, i read it and really enjoyed it . hahaha, i wish i were with you man!!, great adventure, i love the adventures so much and love to live one of them ( even though i consider my life as an adventure:))haha
Good luck any way, and thank God you are still safe..
Stay safe..
hello Marsho, how u doin?
Marsho i cant change my phone# cuz all my friends and contacts know it!!
Marsho wat abut if Becky said we can be friends, i mean me and her, do i shud say no we cant? cuz Amy doesnt want that either!!
anyways im neglecting her sms's already since yearsterday but she called last night and she cried and i was like Oh My Goodness!! plzzz stop crying and she didnt..then her step sister talked to me and started talking bad abut me and calling me liar and selfish...etc.
i told her i told Becky from long time if i had the chance to get back to Amy, i'll get back to her and it happened..
anyways last night it was so bad night..till now her step sister calling and sending SMS's telling me to talk to Becky and comfort her!!but i dont fuckin know wat to do!!
Kaylin, its allright gul dont u worry, anytime u get the q's just hit me with them allright, even if he changed his mind and wanted to do them again?
no im sorry i dont have a my space account..i'll may be sometime in future...
Leo, firstly u r welcomed in my blog and i wish u keeping visiting my blog and explaining to me how ur situation was similar to mine?
2ndly, Amy loves me and im sure abut it, but she is just not good in expressing her love to me..and im pretty sure that she is not like wat i used to call her be4, like a liar, unfaithful or devil..she is angel..but things happened made her do wat she've dun to me, im not saying she did right!! but i dont blame her all, i blame my culture too cuz the problme was part of culture shit!!
so Leo dont u worry abut Amys love to me, but if there is something else plz tell me and help me, PLZZZZ tell me how a respectful end cud be? wat i shud do or telling her??? i realy wanna do a respectful end..i dont want her to hate me!! but simply me and Becky cant be anything anymore even not a friends!!
Sandy, how u doin gul? hey hey, u singing hello? by lionel richiy? " let me start by saying i love u, oops sorry i mean by saying im sorry" lol..
yw Sandy and keep on reading my posts..
oh yea tahnx god i still breathing normally, lol..
take care everybody..
Sam,
There is not way that can guarantee that she won't hate you, I'm afraid. The best way is to meet her, tell her the truth and tell her that you won't be even be able to be a friend of her anymore, plain and simple. It is hard especially the ugly feeling of guilt but believe me that is the "only" way and it's the hardest as is always the case.
On another note, I used to have a friend of mine who used to talk exactly like you when he is in a relationship with some girl. When he really likes a girl, he gets too excited that he shuts down all the reason from his thinking process and no longer sees/feels any negative signs and starts to go out of his way to explain any negative vibes/signs that he was getting (complete denial) but in all these cases, you could tell that the girl was getting ready to dump him or was with him until they find the right guy. I hope you are NOT the same as my friend and that you're not dumping Becky because Amy looks better! anyway, good luck.
Sam Becky's going to feel hurt no matter how you deal with it. I figure the best way to go is to be honest with her. Remaining friends with Becky, and any other girls may/will eventually cause problems between you and Amy. Becky's gonna deal with it how she deals with it, and there's nothing you can do about that ( from my experience women like to do the breaking up, not be broken up with. If it wasn't for the Amy factor I could tell ya how to handle it.). It's going to take time, and patience. Thank God I'm gettin' to old and mean to fall in love ;). Good luck to ya buddy. Solo
stop boring us with your romantic problems, do you think we log in here to read about that? go out and give us some adventures, just give me Becky, and you can always give her to Shaggy at Baghdad Bacon & Eggs Blog, I'm sure Allah would put you in Janna for making his heart swell so.
Use the culture to your advantage and marry them both Sam.
Leo, thanx so much for ur help, yea i talked to becky and i explained to her and she understood me..but the problem she keep talkin to me, not in phone calls or SMS's but via the chat..sometimes i see her online and i ignore her...but she IM me!!idk wat to do!!! but i'll tell her that im realy sorry i cant talk to u anymore by any how!!! but i dont want do it now cuz she got her school final exams coming soon and i dont want hurt her while she doin exams, thats at most wat i can do to her!!
no i hope am not like ur friend.. but do u have a way to make sure Amy loves me as much i do? i mean how i can test her?
tx Leo again..btw i love Amy not cuz she is beautiful, i love her for her heart!!
Solo, how u doin?
yea u right..women like doin the breakin up not to be broken up with!!..but in the same i dont like to be broken up with!!
anyways Solo how old r u? and btw i believe that love doesnt know ages!! u can love no matter how old r u!!!
ها عباس كمت اتدور بنات اعضاء مجلس النواب انته وشاكي؟؟؟؟؟هههههههههههه لا حبي لا خليه اسبير يمي خخخخخخ
Muary, thats funny..yea thats the best lol, but u knw wat? i dont believe in multimarriage..i think one problem(woman) enough to love and to think abut!! i got only one mind and heart..and its hardly enough to one girl to love and to think abut her!!
tx everybody for ur comments..
Sam I'm 52 and have been married once.
Sam, I don't know if you have the sort of adhesive bandages we use here in the states, bandaids--we stick them on our kid's scrapes and cuts.
When you pull them off, if you pull all slowly and carefully because you are afraid you are going to hurt the little one--you hurt them more.
So you learn, pull it off quickly! Don't hesitate.
I think telling a woman that you can't return her love, and that you are going to marry another woman needs to be done like that--quick, definite, over.
But I wonder if you really have made up your mind and heart?
Here we have a saying "the grass is always greener on the other side". It means that things just out of reach look better than what we have.
So if you have Amy, suddenly does Becky start looking a bit better, since you know you can't have her?
There aren't any promises that you will always make the best choice and be happier ever after automatically.
You make your choice, you do your best.
And you try to be the man here, not the little boy, and do right. That means telling Becky and then not answering those messages.
And hoping Becky finds a really wonderful love, because she sounds very nice.
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